Did you just find out that you are pregnant?
And it wasn’t the result you were hoping for.
Are you thinking about taking the abortion pill?
I just want to encourage you that you have time to be informed before you make any decision for your health and safety. It is best to get an ultrasound before any abortion, medical or surgical. An ultrasound exam can confirm the status of your pregnancy.
An ultrasound will:
Relationships... we all have them. Some we can't choose, like our parents, siblings, aunts, uncles or cousins. But
others we have the power to choose. We get to choose who we hang out with. Our friends, our boyfriend or our
girlfriend are our choices. And it's so important to be wise when we make these choices. So, for a moment... think
about your boyfriend. Is he usually…
Kind to you?
Does he respect your feeling and thoughts?
Does he say things that build you up?
Does he listen to you?
Or does he usually…
Try to control you?
Does he lie to you?
Does he put you down in front of others?
Does he pressure you to do things you are uncomfortable doing? Like having sex.
I encourage you to honestly evaluate your relationship. Is it a healthy and well rounded? While there is
no such thing as a perfect relationship and there’s always things to work on, it’s important to have a
good foundation of trust, respect and to have a feeling of stability and security.
When you have scratch on your leg and the bleeding won’t stop, what do you do? You go to the medicine cabinet and get a Band-aid to cover and protect the wound and stop the bleeding. When you are cooking and cut your hand with a knife, what do you reach for? A Band-aid, something that will cover your wound and protect it from germs, leading to infection.
When you have an unplanned pregnancy and your heart is breaking, mind racing, what do you do? You are looking for a way to cover it up, stop the pain, and be “healed”; the phone call for an abortion comes to mind immediately. Many times abortion is seen as a quick fix, a Band-aid, a temporary solution to a bigger problem.
When I had my abortion, I was looking forward to getting my life back to normal. I wanted to stop my unwanted pregnancy from being on my mind constantly, but my abortion experience wasn’t the quick fix that I had hoped for. I wasn’t prepared for or aware of the “triggers” that I would be experiencing for years afterwards.
If you are considering an abortion, you have the right to know you may experience flashbacks or memories of your abortion when you see, hear, smell, or feel things that you encountered during the time of your abortion. These can come days, weeks, and years later.
According to “Ramah’s Voice,” the following are eight of the most common triggers of post-abortion pain:
Initially many women feel relief after an abortion and look forward to getting their life back to where it was before they became pregnant. But days, weeks, months or even years later many emotions can surface as a result of an abortion decision. The following are several post-abortion emotional reactions that some women experience:
Denial…
Shame…
Regret…
Anger…
Some circumstances change us forever…like pregnancy.
Where will this journey end?
How will it end?
What decision do I need to make next?
Where do I find physical as well as emotional support?
Abortion on your mind?
Did you just find out that you are pregnant? Two lines on a pregnancy test weren’t what you were hoping for; I understand. Feelings you could be experiencing now are: fear, anxiety, dread, and just being overwhelmed. You may be looking for a fast way out, and abortion comes to your mind… “I just need to get this over with.”
May I just encourage you to slow down a moment? You have time to make an informed decision and get the facts first. Before you rush into a decision, just confirm that you are pregnant with a visit to a physician or a pregnancy resource center. Usually home tests are accurate, but there are many factors to consider, and there can be false positives. Then follow that up that pregnancy confirmation with an ultrasound exam. This will confirm the status of your pregnancy; this information is important. Did you know that…
…1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage
…the abortion pill will not work if you are experiencing a tubal pregnancy
First question to answer, are you certain you’re pregnant? 1 in 4 pregnancies ends in miscarriage; Care Net PRC of Neosho offers free ultrasounds to confirm what your next steps will be.
Facing an unplanned pregnancy is hard. You may be facing many emotions right now – fear, confusion anxiousness, and more; it can be overwhelming. I understand; I had an unplanned pregnancy at 18 years old. I wanted a quick way out of my situation, so I chose abortion.
Before you decide on abortion, I encourage you to be informed. Get the facts before you rush into a decision.
This is not like taking Tylenol, as many would have you believe. Here are some facts:
The first pill cuts off nutrients to the fetus so that it dies.
When checking out a new restaurant… you ask your friends who have been there to eat.
When questioning whether to watch a certain movie… you read the reviews of those who have seen it.
How much more carefully, then, should you seek out someone or someplace to advise you on a decision that will affect you physically, emotionally, and spiritually for the rest of your life?
When deciding on whether to have an abortion… why not talk to someone who has been on this journey ahead of you and knows exactly what you are struggling with.
Care Net Pregnancy Resource Center of Neosho is that someone…