I think one of the biggest fears in pregnancy is losing your baby.
Are you pregnant and have that fear?
If you are, let’s talk about what a miscarriage is and what to expect.
What is a miscarriage?
A miscarriage is when you lose a pregnancy and 8 out of 10 miscarriages happen before the 20h week of pregnancy.
Do you think you may be pregnant and afraid to tell your parents?
Some concerns and questions you may have are…
What will they think of me?
How will they react?
Will they disown me?
Will they punish me?
Will they kick me out of the house?
Will they make me give my baby away?
Listen, I get it, I was there. I found myself pregnant at 17 years of age and hid it from my parents for 6 months. This is not a good idea, because early prenatal care is crucial.
I had many concerns and questions and didn’t want to tell my parents either. I think my biggest fear out of all those listed above was…what would think of me? They raised me to do the right thing, but yet I failed. Have I let them down?
Something to think about…
Are you pregnant and your parents have kicked you out and you have no emotional and financial support?
Are you pregnant and living in an abusive situation, but have nowhere to go if you leave?
Are you pregnant and having a hard time making ends meet and are risking getting evicted?
Maybe you have an unexpected pregnancy and you feel there’s no one to support you.
The father of the baby is ignoring you. Wants you to get an abortion.
Or
Your parents are upset that you are pregnant and want you to find another place of live.
You just found out you’re pregnant!
You’re scared!
You can’t have a baby right now!
What are my options?
If you’re thinking about the abortion pill, do you know how it works?
There are 10 things you need to consider before getting an abortion.
Home test are not always accurate, so it is important to have a test done by a professional. An ultrasound can tell if the baby has a heartbeat and how far along you are.
As with any medical procedure abortion does come with some risks. These risks can be physical, emotional and even relational.
Another Friday night with nothing to do…
Are you tired of doing the same thing every Friday night?
Going to the dinner, going to the movies, hanging with friends, going to dinner, going to the movies, hanging with friends, going to dinner, going to the movies, hanging with friends…
You are out with your boyfriend and one thing leads to another and next thing you know you have had sex. Unprotected sex. Oh no! Your mind starts racing. Did I become pregnant? The fear is overwhelming and it’s consuming. I just want to encourage you to…
- take a deep breath
- slow your mind down
Let’s talk this through and look at some facts first.
Is your cycle regular?
Do you have one every month?
Because usually during a woman’s menstrual cycle there are six days when a woman can conceive. This “fertile window” is five days before ovulation and the day of ovulation itself. So that means there are a total of six days in a woman’s monthly cycle in which she can become pregnant.
So you may be wondering, what is ovulation? Ovulation is a phase of the female menstrual cycle that involves the release of an egg from one of the ovaries. It generally occurs about two weeks after the first day of your last cycle and can last anywhere from 12 to 24 hours.
If you have unprotected sex before or during the ovulation period, there is a greater chance of conceiving. This is because sperm can survive up to 5 days in the cervix.
Try to think back…when was the first day of your last cycle? If you just had your period or if your period is about to start, chances are you could not become pregnant because you are not in that “fertile window” of time.
If you have any questions or concerns, please text us at 417-456-9437.
Finding out you have an unplanned pregnancy can bring on a whirlwind of emotions. I had one of those unplanned pregnancies. I WAS SCARED TO DEATH! Afraid I’d lose my boyfriend, that my parents would kill me J, what would my extended friends and family think of me, could I finish high school and my church family…oh how I hated disappointing them. So, I hid my pregnancy 6 months in fear until one day my mom asked me if I was pregnant.
Are you carrying the burden of an unplanned pregnancy?
Afraid to tell anyone?
Are you fearful that someone will want you to get an abortion?
Please know that you have a voice regarding your pregnancy. The hardest decisions aren’t always the easiest.
For your health and safety, it is important to get the facts before taking any medication. No matter what the medication is… Tylenol, antibiotics or even vitamins. Everyone is different and our bodies react to things differently. The same is true before taking the abortion pill, please read the following before taking.
A woman should not take Mifeprex, abortion pill, if it has been more than
70 days since the first day of her last menstrual period, or if she:
(medications)
Positive home pregnancy test?
Not what you were hoping for?
Are you thinking abortion is your best option?
First you will need a pregnancy test. However over the counter test are not always accurate and it’s possible to get a false positive. Here at Care Net PRC of Neosho, we have lab-quality pregnancy test that are 99.9% accurate. If you are not pregnant, then there is no need to get an abortion and suffer the harsh side effects.
The second thing is to get an ultrasound. This is a common procedure that serves several purposes.
When checking out a new restaurant… you ask your friends who have been there to eat.
When questioning whether to watch a certain movie… you read the reviews of those who have seen it.
How much more carefully, then, should you seek out someone or someplace to advise you on a decision that will affect you physically, emotionally, and spiritually for the rest of your life?
When deciding on whether to have an abortion… why not talk to someone who has been on this journey ahead of you and knows exactly what you are struggling with.
Care Net Pregnancy Resource Center of Neosho is that someone…
First question to answer, are you certain you’re pregnant? 1 in 4 pregnancies ends in miscarriage; Care Net PRC of Neosho offers free ultrasounds to confirm what your next steps will be.
Facing an unplanned pregnancy is hard. You may be facing many emotions right now – fear, confusion anxiousness, and more; it can be overwhelming. I understand; I had an unplanned pregnancy at 18 years old. I wanted a quick way out of my situation, so I chose abortion.
Before you decide on abortion, I encourage you to be informed. Get the facts before you rush into a decision.
This is not like taking Tylenol, as many would have you believe. Here are some facts:
The first pill cuts off nutrients to the fetus so that it dies.
Abortion on your mind?
Did you just find out that you are pregnant? Two lines on a pregnancy test weren’t what you were hoping for; I understand. Feelings you could be experiencing now are: fear, anxiety, dread, and just being overwhelmed. You may be looking for a fast way out, and abortion comes to your mind… “I just need to get this over with.”
May I just encourage you to slow down a moment? You have time to make an informed decision and get the facts first. Before you rush into a decision, just confirm that you are pregnant with a visit to a physician or a pregnancy resource center. Usually home tests are accurate, but there are many factors to consider, and there can be false positives. Then follow that up that pregnancy confirmation with an ultrasound exam. This will confirm the status of your pregnancy; this information is important. Did you know that…
…1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage
…the abortion pill will not work if you are experiencing a tubal pregnancy
Some circumstances change us forever…like pregnancy.
Where will this journey end?
How will it end?
What decision do I need to make next?
Where do I find physical as well as emotional support?
Initially many women feel relief after an abortion and look forward to getting their life back to where it was before they became pregnant. But days, weeks, months or even years later many emotions can surface as a result of an abortion decision. The following are several post-abortion emotional reactions that some women experience:
Denial…
Shame…
Regret…
Anger…
When you have scratch on your leg and the bleeding won’t stop, what do you do? You go to the medicine cabinet and get a Band-aid to cover and protect the wound and stop the bleeding. When you are cooking and cut your hand with a knife, what do you reach for? A Band-aid, something that will cover your wound and protect it from germs, leading to infection.
When you have an unplanned pregnancy and your heart is breaking, mind racing, what do you do? You are looking for a way to cover it up, stop the pain, and be “healed”; the phone call for an abortion comes to mind immediately. Many times abortion is seen as a quick fix, a Band-aid, a temporary solution to a bigger problem.
When I had my abortion, I was looking forward to getting my life back to normal. I wanted to stop my unwanted pregnancy from being on my mind constantly, but my abortion experience wasn’t the quick fix that I had hoped for. I wasn’t prepared for or aware of the “triggers” that I would be experiencing for years afterwards.
If you are considering an abortion, you have the right to know you may experience flashbacks or memories of your abortion when you see, hear, smell, or feel things that you encountered during the time of your abortion. These can come days, weeks, and years later.
According to “Ramah’s Voice,” the following are eight of the most common triggers of post-abortion pain: